There are women out there that just don't understand...not all men want to be with them, no matter how good they may look. But for some reason, most of these same men would rather settle for fooling them into thinking there's a future of a relationship, instead of telling them flat out, "I'm not really interested in you past the bedroom portion."
Yes. Men and women both, explore other options they once passed up when they're turned down by what they really want.
It's sad. It's wrong. But it happens. People have a natural urge, and yearning to be with someone. To be held, to be inspired, to be listened to. To ignore these urges is insane. But the whole "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with" thing is just HORRIBLE. It teaches people to settle. It teaches people to sideline ones that pine after you until all other options are exhausted. You see it all the time. Don't hear from someone in a while after you've told them how much you want them, how much you need them...but after a few weeks...maybe even months, they're all in your face? You're one of those fallbacks (I call them fallbacks). People need to stop treating love interests like back-up plans. Geezus.
I'm sorry - call it cheesy. But you can't get butterflies back once they've flown.