My first boyfriend was a player. A total flirt, the guy had a list of girlfriends a mile long by the time he reached sixteen. We lasted a total of six weeks but during those six weeks I learned the hard way to stay far, far away from players. From that point on, I went for the quiet guys.
There are a LOT of flirts on here. But if you want to find love -- REAL love -- you have to look past all of those flirts. Look at the guy sitting over there in the corner, doing his thing, not hitting on anyone... He's the keeper. Either that, or a serial killer, but I digress.
My first SERIOUS boyfriend was the shy, quiet type. He'd never had a real girlfriend before me. In fact, throughout high school the men I tended to be attracted to were the shy, quiet type. If all the other girls wanted a guy, you could bet I didn't want him. That wasn't any fun. That's not to say all outgoing guys are players. Certainly not. It's just been my experience that the guys who have the least amount of dates are the real jewels. They're the ones who haven't paraded their junk all over town.
They're discriminating about whom they get naked with...and for me, that's a good thing. There's something disconcerting about meeting your new man's ex and finding out she's...well...not very discriminating about whom SHE gets naked with. They say when you have sex with someone, you have sex with everyone THEY've had sex with, along with everyone they've had sex with. That's a pretty crowded bed. And if Little Miss Skank and her four sisters have had a go at your guy, do you really want him?
The quiet guy GENERALLY hasn't had a lot of sex partners. He's discriminating about whom he sleeps with but mostly, he just doesn't get the opportunity the more outgoing guys do. He might be the most handsome man on the planet but he doesn't approach women. He doesn't hit on them. He's sure they wouldn't be interested in him anyway. So YOU have to go get HIM. Which sucks but it's well worth it. Some might say these guys are nerds, and maybe they were in high school. But Bill Gates was a nerd. Stephen King was a nerd. Nerd is another word for "guy who will one day rule the world."
Don't you think all those women who passed over Bill Gates in high school are kicking themselves now? Okay, maybe not. I mean, guys...you can be quiet but it also would help if you looked a little like Johnny Depp...
But even if you don't, a little silence goes a long way.
No one wants dark, brooding, and weird. Just a normal, stable, well-adjusted guy who doesn't walk up to women in bars to say inane things like, "Baby, do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again?"
So, ladies, if you're looking for Mr. Right, look past all the guys who are surrounding you and leering at you. Look to the guy who is hanging back, staying to himself. HE'S the real keeper.