So read mine, chuckle and snort...but YOU are next. The challenge is to think about what it is like to date or live with you from the other person's perspective. It's about putting all of your flaws out there for the world to see.
It's Not Easy Dating Me
- by All the Men Trudy Has Loved
The first thing you notice about Trudy is that she appears to have it all together. She's the one everyone comes to for advice; but what no one really realizes is, deep down, she is just as lost as everyone else. Trudy comes across at first as a pretty tough cookie. She is sweet, sarcastic, and has loads of energy. She can't wait to do fun things and is always coming up with new and interesting idea. The only problem with that tough cookie exterior is she keeps lots of things to herself. You think you know her.
But you don't.
She's an odd combination. She likes to think she's not an introvert, but her heart can cause her to go deep inside herself and not let anyone in. It's very rare she lets anyone ever really get to know her. I'm pretty sure no one ever has. If someone really got inside, they might be able to hurt her...so she keeps the world at a distance.
Trudy most days is a mess and what’s worse is she knows it. She tells you straight up from the beginning that the only thing she has ever done consistently is make the wrong decisions. When you talk to her though you know there is more to her than this hard front she puts up. She cares so much that she has to hide behind her shell. She cries easily but you don’t want to be the person that makes her shed tears. Trudy doesn’t forgive easily.
A lot of people have hurt her and she doesn’t trust easily. It’s hard to get to know Trudy all at one time...when you learn the big stuff it will probably be out of the blue and inconsistently. One minute everything is fine and the next you are learning of some deep childhood trauma and the really weird thing is she doesn’t want to talk about it….she just wants to tell you, she wants you hear what happened so you can know her.
Trudy procrastinates with the best of them and about everything. Things that most people think are just daily chores are things she finds insignificant and doesn’t have the time for. I can almost guarantee that if she lived alone the laundry would never get folded; clean but not folded.
But then there's this extroverted side of Trudy that longs for attention. That's the side that gets a guy in trouble. Trudy will often go hours without saying a word while her resentment builds and builds. Then suddenly she explodes. You see, it's not that she just suffers...she wants the world to know she suffers. Particularly the man she's with. Ninety percent of everything she gets upset has something to do with attention.
She likes to talk but if you can’t hold a conversation she gets bored and wanders off. She needs someone who can challenge her intellectually and has a very low tolerance for childishness and needless drama. She hates to argue but if you ever decide you need to argue you had better bring facts and not feelings because she will rip you to shreds with logic even if she cries later about the emotional stuff.
If there's one thing Trudy doesn't like, it's being invisible. Especially to the man she loves. When life's many distractions cause a man to neglect her for any period of time, she begins to feel taken for granted. Eventually she gives up on trying to get his attention and retreats back into herself - or worse, someone else.
On the flip side of all of that, Trudy is a strong, spirited, loving partner. Despite what was mentioned above, she is a very independent person. Almost too independent at times. It seems she WANTS attention, she just doesn't NEED it. She fears if anyone puts too much of a spotlight on her, he will see her flaws. So as soon as she's in that spotlight, she deflects it. It's a frustrating contrast...most of the time a man has no idea how to respond to any of it.
What's it like to live with her? Oh hell...don't make her mad. She has this short temper that she claims she has fixed, yet the silent treatment creeps up on you, and then BAM... she screams and everything might suddenly be your fault even if it really isn't. But, there's really only certain things in particular that set her off...you just probably won't know what they are until it's too late.
Speaking of what's wrong... The word "nothing" is her favorite response to that... Her second favorite would be "I'm fine." And if you just drop it after she says "nothing" a time or two, nothing will ever get solved. Trust me, something is wrong with her. She just wants you to act like you care and keep bugging her to get it out of her.
Trudy will never come out and tell you what she wants or ask you for anything, which can be frustrating. If her back hurts, she'll whine about her back hurting a little and let herself be miserable instead of simply asking for a massage. If she doesn't have money for a bill to get it paid on time, she won't ask you for it. No, instead she'll whine a little about not having the money and stay stressed out til she comes up with it on her own.
On an easier note, the number one way to her heart is words. (Well, that and really really good sex...) Although you can't use just any old line with Trudy, the right words can put you in her heart forever. Her favorite thing in the whole world are cards - of the handwritten type. There is nothing more sweeter to her than little notes left here and there.
All in all, she's definately a hard one to figure out. But aren't we all, when we really look at ourselves? She's a great girl, with great ideas...she just probably won't share them with you. She thinks most people really aren't worth her time or energy...and many don't prove her wrong...
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Monday, June 29, 2009
I <3 Carrie Underwood
Did you check the tires?
Put gas in the car?
Don't think you need to much, 'cause you ain't gonna get that far...
Did you pack the good times?
Don't forget a map,
Just incase the route you take isn't there to take you back.
You can hold any girl that you like.
Fall in love when it's easy at night.
But, you'll wake up wondering why she ain't ever something better...
When you're lost and run out of road
Follow what I already know
In the end closer's all there is
But you won't find this
There's once in a lifetime,
And there's once in a while.
And the difference between the two is about a million miles
Oh, you might get lucky while the moon is looking up
But in the truth of the morning, the stars will be long gone
You can hold any girl that you like
Fall in love when it's easy at night
But, you'll wake up wondering why she ain't ever something better
When you're lost and run out of road
Follow what I already know
In the end closer's all there is
Oh, in the end it's me you're going to miss
'Cause you won't find thisOh, you won't find this
Put gas in the car?
Don't think you need to much, 'cause you ain't gonna get that far...
Did you pack the good times?
Don't forget a map,
Just incase the route you take isn't there to take you back.
You can hold any girl that you like.
Fall in love when it's easy at night.
But, you'll wake up wondering why she ain't ever something better...
When you're lost and run out of road
Follow what I already know
In the end closer's all there is
But you won't find this
There's once in a lifetime,
And there's once in a while.
And the difference between the two is about a million miles
Oh, you might get lucky while the moon is looking up
But in the truth of the morning, the stars will be long gone
You can hold any girl that you like
Fall in love when it's easy at night
But, you'll wake up wondering why she ain't ever something better
When you're lost and run out of road
Follow what I already know
In the end closer's all there is
Oh, in the end it's me you're going to miss
'Cause you won't find thisOh, you won't find this
Quote of the Day
Four things you can't recover: The stone, after its thrown. The word, after its said. The occasion, after its missed. The time, after its gone. - Unknown
The Greater Good
Fate is a misconseption, it's only a cover-up for the fact you don't have control over your own life.
Love is knowing someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly be who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. They are someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When you're two balloons, and together your direction is up, chances are you’ve found the right person. Love is being with someone who makes life come to life.
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person. Love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of. Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.
Love is just another word until someone comes along and gives it meaning. You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel. You can spend your whole life running and running, trying to be something that has never really been you. And all you've done is go farther and farther away from what was really home. Don't love someone because they love you - love them because you do.
You can't make someone love you, no more than you can make yourself love someone. It is what it is.
If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have it, no matter what else there is, it's not enough. No about of excuses, alcohol, lies, etc can change that. Tell me the type of person who loves you, and I'll show you the type of person you are. Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing. It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
Your body needs to be held and to hold, to be touched and to touch. None of these needs is to be despised, denied, or repressed. But you have to keep searching for your body's deeper need, the need for genuine love. Every time you are able to go beyond the world's superficial lables for love, you are bringing your body home.
Love does not die easily. It is a living thing. It thrives in the face of all of life's hazards, except one -- neglect. In romantic love you want the other person. In real love you want the other person's good. Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.
Love is knowing someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly be who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. They are someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When you're two balloons, and together your direction is up, chances are you’ve found the right person. Love is being with someone who makes life come to life.
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person. Love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of. Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.
Love is just another word until someone comes along and gives it meaning. You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel. You can spend your whole life running and running, trying to be something that has never really been you. And all you've done is go farther and farther away from what was really home. Don't love someone because they love you - love them because you do.
You can't make someone love you, no more than you can make yourself love someone. It is what it is.
If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have it, no matter what else there is, it's not enough. No about of excuses, alcohol, lies, etc can change that. Tell me the type of person who loves you, and I'll show you the type of person you are. Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing. It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
Your body needs to be held and to hold, to be touched and to touch. None of these needs is to be despised, denied, or repressed. But you have to keep searching for your body's deeper need, the need for genuine love. Every time you are able to go beyond the world's superficial lables for love, you are bringing your body home.
Love does not die easily. It is a living thing. It thrives in the face of all of life's hazards, except one -- neglect. In romantic love you want the other person. In real love you want the other person's good. Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.
77 Things About Me
1. Once you truly believe in yourself anything in life is possible and attainable. I am at that point right now. Everything that used to be confusing now makes sense.
2. I don't mind if you judge me because of my Facebook/Google/Blog page. It actually just makes my job of realizing I don't want to be friends with you that much easier.
3. I saw my first hero at 8, and I knew what I wanted to do for the rest of my life at that point. It just took me time to see it.
4. I can always find something better to do with my free time than television.
5. Astrology isn’t real, it’s another thing made up to give people something to have faith and hope in besides reality. Which is fine and I won’t judge you if you want to have hope in a fairy tale, just don’t expect me to.
6. Most people - even beautiful/hot/sexy/etc people - do not turn me on. They actually provide no stimulation and are very boring to me. Also I feel insulted when they pretend they like me and expect me to believe them.
7. I don't own a hat.
8. I think people that say “my mind is made up and cannot be changed” are beyond ignorant - that’s complete stupidity.
9. I have no tolerance for people, especially women, that can't take a compliment.
10. I live my life with my cards facing the opposite direction so everyone at the table can see them. If they can see my cards then it allows them to make fair decisions concerning me. If you know my motives, then life is much simpler for both of us. Also if this causes me to miss out on something, then its for the best because it would have been something acquired under false pretenses.
11. I didn’t have sex until my first husband. I wanted to save something sacred for the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. (If you are reading this and are doing the same thing, don’t. It’s dumb -have lots of sex with random people before you are married.)
12. Speaking of sex, I know that I have a physical, mental and emotional understanding of the act that most do not. I think that's why I can discuss it without blushing.
13. I like to think I am fair at all times, even when I deserve to not be.
14. I might sound like an a-hole in my blogs, but I am probably the nicest person you will ever meet. I just don’t put up with crap from anyone. I’m firm with my boundaries and always speak my mind in a straight to the point kind of way.
15. I think suppression is the root of unhappiness. I don’t put myself in situations where I have to suppress how I feel. I don’t like who I am when I do that.
16. I was married from 17 to 20 to a man that does not possess the ability to be happy in any area of his life. It just took me 3 years to figure that out.
17. I am very self aware. I spend time studying myself on a regular basis - keeping myself in check. I understand why I think the way I do and why I make the decisions I make.
18. I try to stay in a state of happiness and I refuse to let anyone else impact that.
19. I have 1 sister, who is my complete and utter opposite.
20. I thrive on and require passion with any area of my life. This is sometimes a great quality, however sometimes makes it hard for me to be satisfied with anything but excellence.
21. I love how a man looks in a button up shirt and usually expect Mike to wear one when we go out. (PS. I communicate this expectation. I don’t expect it and then get disappointed when he doesn’t magically know that’s what I want. Sound familiar?)
22. I don't believe in giving anyone I have dated more than 40% effort. The other 60% should be reserved for whatever person you end up with.
23. When I was in second grade I read an entire 26-book set of encyclopedias for "fun." This is probably why boys only wanted to be friends with me.
24. I am addicted to random acts of kindness, whether monetary or acts of service.
25. I like my steak rare. Very rare.
26. I haven’t stolen anything since I was 7. I stole a bottle of fingernail polish from the local drugstore, WITH money in my pocket. And I cried when I got home because I felt guilty.
27. I think people that fight on a regular basis are embarrassing. Once you get past 17 you should use your mind to resolve disputes and fists as a last resort.
28. I challenge everyone I meet. If they can’t handle it then I don’t become friends with them. I’m not going to become friends with someone that expects me to bite my tongue on their bullshit. It’s simple.
29. I am a romantic but I rarely show it.
30. I think the single sexiest thing a man can do it write. Period.
31. Find one person that says I won’t give them the shirt off my back and I will be shocked.
32. Fate is bullshit. I am going to put 27 purple sheep in the back of a Uhaul and drive it off a bridge while singing nursery rhymes. Did someone put that in the plan 4,000 years ago? Uhm no.
33. If I had to live on a budget I would be homeless.
34. Sometimes I am too overconfident in my opinions and don’t listen to other people’s thoughts. This is something I struggle with daily, but realize it and TRY to work on it as well.
35. I don’t remember ever seriously making fun of anyone.
36. I am a woman and believe in gender roles. I don't pay for things. I think the man should take care of things. I follow with input, that’s how it works. That’s my job. I'd much rather be barefoot and baking an apply pie when you come home from work.
37. I love Ritz Toasted Crackers - but I forget to buy them.
38. I wear cute panties AND grannies! Not at the same time of course. But I know when to wear each.
39. I love my running shoes. They make all the difference in the comfort of my day.
40. A man that can communicate clearly is more attractive to me than a man with a perfect body. I will trade 15 pounds for rational conversation and thinking any day.
41. Everyone starts out with a clean slate with me - that is until you blow it. Then, no matter how much it hurts, I WILL cut you off.
42. My feelings are hurt VERY easily. But you will never know when you do it.
43. My best friends are 5 of the most fabulous people in the world. They've all came into my life within the past 5 years, yet know me better than anyone. They know my WORST and BEST secrets.
44. My favorite man movie is "300." My favorite girl movie is "Runaway Bride." My all time fav movies are "Pulp Fiction, The Kill Bills, The Notebook, and Tombstone."
45. I have an uncanny ability to make people feel comfortable and open around me.
46. Soul mate’s aren’t real. If you think that there is one person born on this earth specifically to be with you please email me so I can pry the Hallmark rewards card from your hands.
47. My favorite mixed drink is Malibu & Diet (mixed 80/20).
48. I don’t like sleeping in, but I do it often thanks to my work schedule.
49. I love to cook. It’s hands down my favorite thing to do. But not the dishes.
50. My favorite question is why. I ask myself why daily and ask others why just as much. Why will change surface level conversation to stimulating conversation. Ask why until it makes logical proof, all the way down to the root. It’s a good exercise.
51. I love women. I love the way they smell, feel, sound, look, breathe, laugh, talk, smile, blink, walk, run, sleep, drink, eat, cough, sneeze, everything about them. BUT I am not a lesbian. I just think we're way more enticing than a man.
52. The man I love the most is my Daddy.
53. I am burned out on going out.
54. How people interpret or perceive what you believe or the decisions you make is not your problem. That shouldn’t play into what is right or wrong for you. You have to be considerate to the ones you love, but should always do what you feel is right.
55. I miss about 3 people who are alive but no longer in my life. Don't get me wrong. There's a reason they're no longer in it - but they brought alot to the table while they were.
56. I am a very competitive person; especially when it’s with myself and my expectations of myself.
57. When I fall in love, it is hard. I hate falling AND heights.
58. I think the only way to grow is to be uncomfortable for a certain period of time while you break out of your comfort zones.
59. One of my top 5 talents is making a good first impression with a person (unless of course they read this blog beforehand - then I’m screwed).
60. Being uncomfortable is a feeling I rarely ever get, unless I am doing something that I know isn’t right.
61. I am not intimidated by people physically bigger or stronger than me.
62. I have compassion for anyone who in the middle of a spouse leaving. Extreme compassion, even strangers.
63. I can easily meet and get close to strangers.
64. There is nothing I hate more than people questioning my motives.
65. I don’t believe in snooping. It can’t lead to anything positive.
66. You only get to live once and it’s pretty short so I don’t like missing out on any opportunities in life.
67. I don’t judge people for being or thinking different than me. But that doesn't mean I'm changing my mind.
68. I don’t remember the last time I let someone know they got the best of me. It's my talent.
69. I can be very insensitive at times, but typically its justified. However the few times that it isn’t justified is very unfair to the other person, and I’m working on it.
70. My favorite wine is Hatteras Red, room temperature.
71. My favorite city is Wilmington. Cut it and it will bleed culture, booze, sex and good food.
72. My favorite dessert is good Cheesecake. No fruit topping, I want to enjoy every single ounce of fluffy cheesy perfection without any taste bud distractions.
73. When I was 6 I scored in the top 6 percentile of national IQ tests. I could finish English tests in less than 5 minutes - the same ones that took my classmates 30 minutes to finish.
74. I didn't graduate high school. I was taking all Advanced Placement classes and QUIT. To get married. Ah the things we do for love. I didn’t get to walk with my class at graduation and that hurts to this day.
75. When I find a pair of shoes that fit perfect and I like the way they look, I do a happy dance in the middle of the store.
76. I am just now starting to realize how fantastic "good jeans" are.
77. I have yet to meet a person that will take me at face value and not underestimate me. It would make life so much easier if they did.
2. I don't mind if you judge me because of my Facebook/Google/Blog page. It actually just makes my job of realizing I don't want to be friends with you that much easier.
3. I saw my first hero at 8, and I knew what I wanted to do for the rest of my life at that point. It just took me time to see it.
4. I can always find something better to do with my free time than television.
5. Astrology isn’t real, it’s another thing made up to give people something to have faith and hope in besides reality. Which is fine and I won’t judge you if you want to have hope in a fairy tale, just don’t expect me to.
6. Most people - even beautiful/hot/sexy/etc people - do not turn me on. They actually provide no stimulation and are very boring to me. Also I feel insulted when they pretend they like me and expect me to believe them.
7. I don't own a hat.
8. I think people that say “my mind is made up and cannot be changed” are beyond ignorant - that’s complete stupidity.
9. I have no tolerance for people, especially women, that can't take a compliment.
10. I live my life with my cards facing the opposite direction so everyone at the table can see them. If they can see my cards then it allows them to make fair decisions concerning me. If you know my motives, then life is much simpler for both of us. Also if this causes me to miss out on something, then its for the best because it would have been something acquired under false pretenses.
11. I didn’t have sex until my first husband. I wanted to save something sacred for the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. (If you are reading this and are doing the same thing, don’t. It’s dumb -have lots of sex with random people before you are married.)
12. Speaking of sex, I know that I have a physical, mental and emotional understanding of the act that most do not. I think that's why I can discuss it without blushing.
13. I like to think I am fair at all times, even when I deserve to not be.
14. I might sound like an a-hole in my blogs, but I am probably the nicest person you will ever meet. I just don’t put up with crap from anyone. I’m firm with my boundaries and always speak my mind in a straight to the point kind of way.
15. I think suppression is the root of unhappiness. I don’t put myself in situations where I have to suppress how I feel. I don’t like who I am when I do that.
16. I was married from 17 to 20 to a man that does not possess the ability to be happy in any area of his life. It just took me 3 years to figure that out.
17. I am very self aware. I spend time studying myself on a regular basis - keeping myself in check. I understand why I think the way I do and why I make the decisions I make.
18. I try to stay in a state of happiness and I refuse to let anyone else impact that.
19. I have 1 sister, who is my complete and utter opposite.
20. I thrive on and require passion with any area of my life. This is sometimes a great quality, however sometimes makes it hard for me to be satisfied with anything but excellence.
21. I love how a man looks in a button up shirt and usually expect Mike to wear one when we go out. (PS. I communicate this expectation. I don’t expect it and then get disappointed when he doesn’t magically know that’s what I want. Sound familiar?)
22. I don't believe in giving anyone I have dated more than 40% effort. The other 60% should be reserved for whatever person you end up with.
23. When I was in second grade I read an entire 26-book set of encyclopedias for "fun." This is probably why boys only wanted to be friends with me.
24. I am addicted to random acts of kindness, whether monetary or acts of service.
25. I like my steak rare. Very rare.
26. I haven’t stolen anything since I was 7. I stole a bottle of fingernail polish from the local drugstore, WITH money in my pocket. And I cried when I got home because I felt guilty.
27. I think people that fight on a regular basis are embarrassing. Once you get past 17 you should use your mind to resolve disputes and fists as a last resort.
28. I challenge everyone I meet. If they can’t handle it then I don’t become friends with them. I’m not going to become friends with someone that expects me to bite my tongue on their bullshit. It’s simple.
29. I am a romantic but I rarely show it.
30. I think the single sexiest thing a man can do it write. Period.
31. Find one person that says I won’t give them the shirt off my back and I will be shocked.
32. Fate is bullshit. I am going to put 27 purple sheep in the back of a Uhaul and drive it off a bridge while singing nursery rhymes. Did someone put that in the plan 4,000 years ago? Uhm no.
33. If I had to live on a budget I would be homeless.
34. Sometimes I am too overconfident in my opinions and don’t listen to other people’s thoughts. This is something I struggle with daily, but realize it and TRY to work on it as well.
35. I don’t remember ever seriously making fun of anyone.
36. I am a woman and believe in gender roles. I don't pay for things. I think the man should take care of things. I follow with input, that’s how it works. That’s my job. I'd much rather be barefoot and baking an apply pie when you come home from work.
37. I love Ritz Toasted Crackers - but I forget to buy them.
38. I wear cute panties AND grannies! Not at the same time of course. But I know when to wear each.
39. I love my running shoes. They make all the difference in the comfort of my day.
40. A man that can communicate clearly is more attractive to me than a man with a perfect body. I will trade 15 pounds for rational conversation and thinking any day.
41. Everyone starts out with a clean slate with me - that is until you blow it. Then, no matter how much it hurts, I WILL cut you off.
42. My feelings are hurt VERY easily. But you will never know when you do it.
43. My best friends are 5 of the most fabulous people in the world. They've all came into my life within the past 5 years, yet know me better than anyone. They know my WORST and BEST secrets.
44. My favorite man movie is "300." My favorite girl movie is "Runaway Bride." My all time fav movies are "Pulp Fiction, The Kill Bills, The Notebook, and Tombstone."
45. I have an uncanny ability to make people feel comfortable and open around me.
46. Soul mate’s aren’t real. If you think that there is one person born on this earth specifically to be with you please email me so I can pry the Hallmark rewards card from your hands.
47. My favorite mixed drink is Malibu & Diet (mixed 80/20).
48. I don’t like sleeping in, but I do it often thanks to my work schedule.
49. I love to cook. It’s hands down my favorite thing to do. But not the dishes.
50. My favorite question is why. I ask myself why daily and ask others why just as much. Why will change surface level conversation to stimulating conversation. Ask why until it makes logical proof, all the way down to the root. It’s a good exercise.
51. I love women. I love the way they smell, feel, sound, look, breathe, laugh, talk, smile, blink, walk, run, sleep, drink, eat, cough, sneeze, everything about them. BUT I am not a lesbian. I just think we're way more enticing than a man.
52. The man I love the most is my Daddy.
53. I am burned out on going out.
54. How people interpret or perceive what you believe or the decisions you make is not your problem. That shouldn’t play into what is right or wrong for you. You have to be considerate to the ones you love, but should always do what you feel is right.
55. I miss about 3 people who are alive but no longer in my life. Don't get me wrong. There's a reason they're no longer in it - but they brought alot to the table while they were.
56. I am a very competitive person; especially when it’s with myself and my expectations of myself.
57. When I fall in love, it is hard. I hate falling AND heights.
58. I think the only way to grow is to be uncomfortable for a certain period of time while you break out of your comfort zones.
59. One of my top 5 talents is making a good first impression with a person (unless of course they read this blog beforehand - then I’m screwed).
60. Being uncomfortable is a feeling I rarely ever get, unless I am doing something that I know isn’t right.
61. I am not intimidated by people physically bigger or stronger than me.
62. I have compassion for anyone who in the middle of a spouse leaving. Extreme compassion, even strangers.
63. I can easily meet and get close to strangers.
64. There is nothing I hate more than people questioning my motives.
65. I don’t believe in snooping. It can’t lead to anything positive.
66. You only get to live once and it’s pretty short so I don’t like missing out on any opportunities in life.
67. I don’t judge people for being or thinking different than me. But that doesn't mean I'm changing my mind.
68. I don’t remember the last time I let someone know they got the best of me. It's my talent.
69. I can be very insensitive at times, but typically its justified. However the few times that it isn’t justified is very unfair to the other person, and I’m working on it.
70. My favorite wine is Hatteras Red, room temperature.
71. My favorite city is Wilmington. Cut it and it will bleed culture, booze, sex and good food.
72. My favorite dessert is good Cheesecake. No fruit topping, I want to enjoy every single ounce of fluffy cheesy perfection without any taste bud distractions.
73. When I was 6 I scored in the top 6 percentile of national IQ tests. I could finish English tests in less than 5 minutes - the same ones that took my classmates 30 minutes to finish.
74. I didn't graduate high school. I was taking all Advanced Placement classes and QUIT. To get married. Ah the things we do for love. I didn’t get to walk with my class at graduation and that hurts to this day.
75. When I find a pair of shoes that fit perfect and I like the way they look, I do a happy dance in the middle of the store.
76. I am just now starting to realize how fantastic "good jeans" are.
77. I have yet to meet a person that will take me at face value and not underestimate me. It would make life so much easier if they did.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Enough Already
Okay, I've had a crazy night at work, so pardon me for this rant. I work with some crazy people. This is for you chick - even though I love you. You wanted my advise, so here goes...
Did your boyfriend/girlfriend just split up with you?
Are you finally dumping that son of a biscuit eater, who always makes you cry?
Is it time (been time) to get the hello out of a realtionship?
But wait! You can't handle it. You are going to sit around and cry and boohoo because you LOVEEEE him/her. Well shut up and do me a favor.
Here is the very first step in healing from a broken heart.
GET BACK TO YOU! IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU AGAIN! Wait. Let me say this one more time. IT IS YOU YOU YOU that is the main concern now. First. I want you to sit your stupid self down and write a list. Two lists actually. On one side of the paper I want you to write down all the good things of the relationship. The other write down all the bad. Now look at it.
The good should be much longer than the bad.. if its not...that is Step One to realize...this relationship was more like a bad friendship. With on occasional sex. Second.
Give yourself 3 days to just cry about it. And please. Don't involve your friends. They don't really want to hear it. I mean seriously. They knew this was coming. EVERYONE knew this was coming. If you want to trash him...get a picture...and stab the hello out of it. Take your frustations out on the portrait. Not out on your friends.
Yes, you can call the one friend and vent. I am not saying don't talk to your friends about it, but dont make that the only topic of conversation. It gets old and it gets old quick. You know I am right. How many times have you had a friend cry on your shoulder and all you could think was... "Damn this chick needs to get over this mess and QUICK!
Yes I have been the friend that has cried, bitched and moaned about losing my realtionship. Looking back I know what a fool I was and how annoying it was to my friends. They just want to have a good time in life. They want YOU to have a good time. So give them a quick spill what went down and move on. After you had your 3 day bawl-baby session, its time to dry it up sister...
First you call one of your good friends, that you hopefully didn't annoy the hell out of with your moping to them.. and you say. "Listen girl, me and you are GOING OUT" Make a date with your friend! Then once that is set..I want you to look in the mirror. And tell that cry baby LOSER needing that @sshole GOODBYE...
You go get your hair cut...hair dided...hair dyed. Whatever. CHANGE YOUR LOOK! Oh you are broke? Well go to the Hair by Taneisha. Just change it up! Go get a new outfit! Something a little more revealing than usual. Now if you are a big boy or girl.. simmer down there.. you dont want everything hanging out. But dress in something new and cute!! Still broke? Go to the damn Thrift store if you have too. Just get something new.
Men and woman..both.. get a manicure. Have your nails looking nice. Go to a tanning bed.. Even if your @ss is scared of the cancer. Just 5 minutes in there will give you the world of color. After you got all this done.. You go home...get ready...and once you are looking your best.. and oh so FAB...Just stand there and look at yourself in the mirror. Admire the NEW you. The free you. The you that is gonna be YOU again.
While your looking at yourself, promise yourself one thing for that night. Promise yourself that you this evening is free of all worries. Free of all past. Free of anything standing in your way of moving on. Allow yourself just ONE night of that. You can cry again tomorrow. Now go out with your friend and have a great time. Just remember. You promised yourself that one night for just you. Remember.. You can go back to your pitiful pitty party tomorrow.
YOU MUST ALLOW YOURSELF THIS NIGHT OF FREEDOM.
Then the next day. When you are sad again, I want you to think back to your night. How great you looked. How good you felt. How much fun you had. And that should be enough to let you know that you will make it.
You will survive.
You will move on.
YES you are going to be alright.
AND FOR GOD SAKES...DO NOT CALL/STALK/EMAIL/TEXT/RIDE BY/EVEN THINK OF HIM/HER! THAT IS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU CAN MAKE. FIND SOMEONE ELSE!
THERE ARE TOO MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE.
LET THEM MISS YOU. WHAT THEY DIDN'T KEEP CAN BE THEIR REGRET.
DON'T LET IT BE YOURS.
Did your boyfriend/girlfriend just split up with you?
Are you finally dumping that son of a biscuit eater, who always makes you cry?
Is it time (been time) to get the hello out of a realtionship?
But wait! You can't handle it. You are going to sit around and cry and boohoo because you LOVEEEE him/her. Well shut up and do me a favor.
Here is the very first step in healing from a broken heart.
GET BACK TO YOU! IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU AGAIN! Wait. Let me say this one more time. IT IS YOU YOU YOU that is the main concern now. First. I want you to sit your stupid self down and write a list. Two lists actually. On one side of the paper I want you to write down all the good things of the relationship. The other write down all the bad. Now look at it.
The good should be much longer than the bad.. if its not...that is Step One to realize...this relationship was more like a bad friendship. With on occasional sex. Second.
Give yourself 3 days to just cry about it. And please. Don't involve your friends. They don't really want to hear it. I mean seriously. They knew this was coming. EVERYONE knew this was coming. If you want to trash him...get a picture...and stab the hello out of it. Take your frustations out on the portrait. Not out on your friends.
Yes, you can call the one friend and vent. I am not saying don't talk to your friends about it, but dont make that the only topic of conversation. It gets old and it gets old quick. You know I am right. How many times have you had a friend cry on your shoulder and all you could think was... "Damn this chick needs to get over this mess and QUICK!
Yes I have been the friend that has cried, bitched and moaned about losing my realtionship. Looking back I know what a fool I was and how annoying it was to my friends. They just want to have a good time in life. They want YOU to have a good time. So give them a quick spill what went down and move on. After you had your 3 day bawl-baby session, its time to dry it up sister...
First you call one of your good friends, that you hopefully didn't annoy the hell out of with your moping to them.. and you say. "Listen girl, me and you are GOING OUT" Make a date with your friend! Then once that is set..I want you to look in the mirror. And tell that cry baby LOSER needing that @sshole GOODBYE...
You go get your hair cut...hair dided...hair dyed. Whatever. CHANGE YOUR LOOK! Oh you are broke? Well go to the Hair by Taneisha. Just change it up! Go get a new outfit! Something a little more revealing than usual. Now if you are a big boy or girl.. simmer down there.. you dont want everything hanging out. But dress in something new and cute!! Still broke? Go to the damn Thrift store if you have too. Just get something new.
Men and woman..both.. get a manicure. Have your nails looking nice. Go to a tanning bed.. Even if your @ss is scared of the cancer. Just 5 minutes in there will give you the world of color. After you got all this done.. You go home...get ready...and once you are looking your best.. and oh so FAB...Just stand there and look at yourself in the mirror. Admire the NEW you. The free you. The you that is gonna be YOU again.
While your looking at yourself, promise yourself one thing for that night. Promise yourself that you this evening is free of all worries. Free of all past. Free of anything standing in your way of moving on. Allow yourself just ONE night of that. You can cry again tomorrow. Now go out with your friend and have a great time. Just remember. You promised yourself that one night for just you. Remember.. You can go back to your pitiful pitty party tomorrow.
YOU MUST ALLOW YOURSELF THIS NIGHT OF FREEDOM.
Then the next day. When you are sad again, I want you to think back to your night. How great you looked. How good you felt. How much fun you had. And that should be enough to let you know that you will make it.
You will survive.
You will move on.
YES you are going to be alright.
AND FOR GOD SAKES...DO NOT CALL/STALK/EMAIL/TEXT/RIDE BY/EVEN THINK OF HIM/HER! THAT IS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU CAN MAKE. FIND SOMEONE ELSE!
THERE ARE TOO MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE.
LET THEM MISS YOU. WHAT THEY DIDN'T KEEP CAN BE THEIR REGRET.
DON'T LET IT BE YOURS.
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